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Telling White Lies

Updated on June 26, 2019

Have you ever told a white lie to be kind, to protect the feelings of others, or maybe to simply avoid stigma? You're not alone.

For some living with a chronic condition, telling a white lie can be a way to save one's strength. Sometimes it's easier not to share your unvarnished truth, especially when it doesn't hurt anyone else.

Have you ever found yourself saying any of the following?

1. "No, no. I can do it myself."
2. "I'm not scared/nervous/anxious/unsure."
3. "I'm fine. Really."
4. "Don't worry. I'm used to this."
5. "No, I'm not in much pain."

Here are some conversations from the community about this topic:

"I haven't been posting anything because I'm tired of lying even to myself."

"I'm literally ashamed of having to explain that I'm not contagious with some disease if I want to wear shorts or a tank top."

"My job is pretty good, but they just don’t really understand and I constantly feel like I am letting everyone down and am worried I’m going to lose my job."

Why do you choose a white lie over sharing your true feelings?
What do you wish you could say instead?

Updated on June 26, 2019

A myHSteam Member

I've had HS since 2008 before Doctors knew what it was. I had surgery 2010 it was bad took me a month before I was discharged from the hospital. Also when I got home my sister had to change my gauze… read more

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