Hi CJ.
I'm in my 50s and married but only for the last 5 years, together 8. So, we knew each other a little from high school. Anyways, after 3 or 4 dates, we talked about it. We talked on the phone two times that first week all night long. So we talked about everything. I'm sure it got brought up during that time, but I can't remember how. Honesty is best policy. But like you said, disease, condition, disorder, aren't words anyone wants to hear. I'd wait to see how far you go, and before intimacy, just talk about it. Good luck friend. 😊

Well, you don't have to be open right from the get go. Let someone get to know you as a person first. If they truly care about you, they will still be there when you explain the HS. If they run away, they were not the right person for you in the first place! 🤗

My advice would be to judge how they are as a person. Are they empathic in general to people? If so, I would say they will be empathic to your flares and scaring.

If they comment on people’s appearances and are unsympathetic I’d say they wouldn’t be someone I’d want to date let alone be intimidate with.

My husband has even had to help me during cysts in intimate areas and bless him he’s never even flinched.